General Recomendations for Parents

  • Make sure that your student-athlete has all necessary paperwork on file with the Athletic Department.  Don't assume they will get it done.
  • Attend the Parent Meeting to ensure that you can help your athlete have all the necessary equipment and to help facilitate necessary duties that require the parent / guardian.
  • Be a support system for your child. Let the coaching end on the field.
  • Be a support system for the coach. Coaches will make the right decision for the TEAM first.  
  • Respect the game and those that are contributors, such as the officials and event workers. 
  • Remember that the optimal outcome is not winning or losing, but becoming better people and citizens of our society.

We also highly recommend that all of our parents take the "Positive Sports Parenting" course offered though NFHSLearn (link below).  The course is free and can be accessed the same way as the concussion course. 

Parent / Coach Communication

Parenting and coaching are two very difficult vocations. By attempting to understand each position, we are better able to accept the actions of the other and provide greater benefit to the student athletes. As parents, when your children become involved in our programs, you have a right to understand the expectations placed upon your child. Clear communication from your child’s coach is essential in establishing understanding.

Communication you should expect from your son / daughter’s coach:

  • Philosophy of the coach.
  • Expectations the coach has for your child as well as the other players on the squad.
  • Sites and schedules for all practices and competitions.
  • Special team requirements such as: fees, special equipment, off-season conditioning.
  • Procedures should your child be injured during participation
  • Discipline that results in the denial of your child’s participation.

Communication coaches expect from parents:

  • Concerns expressed directly to the coach.
  • Notification of any schedule conflicts in advance.
  • Specific concerns in regard to a coach’s philosophy and/or expectations.

As your children become involved in the athletic programs at Estero High School, they will experience some of the most rewarding moments of their young lives. However, it is also important to understand that there may also be times when things do not go the way your son / daughter wishes. At these times, discussion with the coach is encouraged.

Appropriate issues to discuss with coaches:

  • The treatment of your child, mentally, and physically.
  • Ways to help your child improve.
  • Concerns about your child’s behavior.

It may be very difficult to accept your child not playing as much as you had hoped. Our coaches are professionals. They make judgment decisions based upon what they believe is best for all participants. As you have seen from the list above, certain things can and should be discussed with your child's coach. Other things, such as those on the following page must be left to the discretion of the coach.

Issues not appropriate to discuss with coaches:

  • Playing time.
  • Team strategy.
  • Play calling.
  • Other student-athletes.

There are situations that may require a conference between the parent and the coach. These are to be encouraged. It is important that both parties involved have a clear understanding of the others position. When these conferences are necessary, the following procedure should be followed to help promote a resolution to the issue of concern.

If you have a concern to discuss with a coach, the procedure you should follow is:

  • Encourage Player / Coach Contact
  • Parent / Player / Coach—Call to set up an appointment, (you may leave a message with the secretary or contact them by e-mail).
  • Please do not attempt to confront a coach before or after a practice or contest. These can be emotional times for both the parent and the coach. Meetings of this nature do not promote resolution.

What can a parent do if the meeting with the coach did not provide satisfactory resolution?

1. Call and make and appointment to meet with the Athletic Director to discuss the situation. (Player / Parent / Coach / Athletic Director)

2. At this meeting the next step will be determined.

Our interscholastic athletic program has been established because research indicates that a student involved in extracurricular activities has a greater chance of achieving academic and life-long success. Many of the character traits necessary to become a successful participant are similar to those that will ensure success in post- graduate life.  

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